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Is it gramatically correct to ask "would you like one of them" or would it be better to say "would you like one of those" when pointing to a selection of cakes on a plate for example.
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1. Would you like one of them?
2. Would you like one of those?
3. Would you like one of these?
#1 uses the object pronoun "them" (3rd person plural).
#2 uses the demonstrative pronoun "those", which is the plural of "that", and usually refers to objects that are further away from the speaker.
#3 uses the demonstrative pronoun "these", which is the plural of "this", and usually refers to objects that are nearer the speaker.
They are equally correct grammatically; but in terms of idiom, it's more usual in standard English to use "one of those" or "one of these" when indicating objects or people, and "one of them" when no indication is necessary (for instance, when everyone knows what "them" refers to).
Interestingly, if you say "would you like one of them?" while indicating the "them" in question, it can have slightly dismissive overtones. So in your scenario, for instance, it might imply that you didn't have a high opinion of the cakes.