Why don't you/ won't you/ aren't you/ aren't you willing (difference in meaning)

[keramus]

Hello everybody

I asked a question on this site :
http://forum.wordreference.com/thre...nt-you-willing-meaning.3090902/#post-15628546
But nobody has answered me yet (after 4 days). For this reason I decided to ask this question on this site.
Here is my question:
After waking up , I went to the kitchen. I saw my wife sitting on a chair. She was silent and quiet. I said:
Is there something wrong,honey?
She didn't answer. Then, I said:
Why won't you talk to me?
Why don't you talk to me?
Why don't you want to talk to me?
Why aren't you willing to talk to me?
Why aren't you talking to me?
Do all of these sentences have the same meaning in this context? ( I want to know what difference these sentences make)

I would be grateful if you explained the difference in meaning of these sentences.
Can we use all of these sentences interchangeably in this context?
Thank you.
P.S: What is your opinion about these:
Why are you unwilling to talk to me?
Why are you reluctant to talk to me?

 

[bhaisahab]

They all mean pretty much the same thing in your context. For whatever reason, she is not talking to you.

 

[keramus]

Some people say that the meaning of
Why don't you and
Why won't you
and
Why aren't you
is different. Would you please give me your opinion about these tenses?

 

[Rover_KE]

I agree with bhaisahab and Thomas Tompion. They all mean the same in this context.

If 'some people' think differently, you'd have to ask them to explain why.

 

[Tdol]

Why won't you could be used to suggest that the wife is refusing to talk to him. If he had tried a few times to talk, then asked this question, it could carry that meaning.