Hello there,
What are the best ways to speak eloquently even with total strangers without stumbling upon one's words, and to eliminate word-finding pauses?
Thank you,
Much of this has to do with your confidence. How confident are you around others? Are you confident in your knowledge of your topic?
I'm a native speaker, but I'd be totally lost if you asked me to talk about nuclear energy. Ask me about my recipe for fudge, though, and I can talk confidently. It's something I enjoy and something I know.
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My degree is in Spanish, but I write and read it much better than I converse in it. The only way to overcome that, at least in my experience, is practice. One of my Spanish-speaking ESL adults told me that speaking English was hard because he had to go through all these steps in his head:
1. Hear you in your language.
2. Mentally translate what I just heard to my own language.
3. Think of a response in my own language.
4. Translate my response to your language.
That's what I have to do when I talk with a Spanish speaker. Even so, I make mistakes with verb tenses. Fortunately, most of the people I talk to are patient with me. At least one Spanish speaker has told me she appreciated it when I tried to use her language to converse with her, because I was trying to make the conversation easier for her.