My friend and I or me and my friend.

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"Diane said something about me and my friend or my friend and I?"

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Diane said something about my friend and me.
 

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AmE-speakers will usually say to my friend and I even though "me" is grammatically correct. You should learn the correct usage, but don't be surprised to see native speakers use the other one.
 
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I don't agree that it's "usual."

I hear a ridiculous amount of "Between you and I" but overall, I find a lot more use of the "me" as a subject than "I" as the object.

I DO agree you'll hear it, but not that it's the more common form.
 

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I am confused because "My friend and I were present there" and "She said something about my friend and me." These two sentences are quite similar but different.
 

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These two sentences are quite similar but different.

Think what you'd say if my friend weren't in the sentence, and use that form. You wouldn't say [strike]me went[/strike] or [strike]she told I[/strike], so simply add the part about your friend to the correct forms.
 

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Hello, Tufguy:

I often hear American speakers say something like "This secret is just between you and I."

You, however, will never make a mistake like that if you memorize one easy rule: After a preposition, you ALWAYS use the objective form of the pronoun.

You know, of course, that "me" is the objective form of "I."

Thus:

"Mona said something about Tony and me / her / him / us / them."

"Mona gave a gift to Tony and me."

"Mona baked a cake for Betty and me."

"Mona received a gift from George, Susan, and me."

"Mona graduated from college after him, her, and me."
 
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