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    Expressing my regret about not seeing her

    Are these all used to express my regret about not meeting and talking with her? Sentence 3 seems redundant.

    1. I should like to have met and talked with her.
    2. I should have liked to meet and talk with her.
    3. I should have liked to have met and talked with her.

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    Re: Expressing my regret about not seeing her

    All of your examples sound like outdated BrE.

    They are all grammatically sound, and all would be correct depending on context, but they lead to complicated questions about boring stuff like sequence of tenses.

    Modern and racy would be: "I would've liked to meet her and talk to her." That covers all bases without all that messy grammar.

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    Re: Expressing my regret about not seeing her

    Quote Originally Posted by RobertJ View Post
    I think we have a few problems here, and why are you using 'should' instead of 'would'? For example:

    2) "I should have liked to meet and talk with her." (But I didn't like the idea at the time and I don't regret it a bit!)

    Why don't you try again.
    I thought British people would use "should" instead of "would" in this context.

    In the following example, I have a feeling that sentence 1 is preferred by the British while sentence 2 is preferred by Americans.

    1. I suggest that you should go on a diet and do daily exercise to lose weight and become healthy.
    2. I suggest that you go on a diet and do daily exercise to lose weight and become healthy.

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    Re: Expressing my regret about not seeing her

    Using "should" in this context does indeed sound outdated. My grandfather (born 1921) used to use it but I don't know anyone of a more recent generation who uses it.

    I would, nowadays, expect to hear "I would have liked to meet her and talk to her" or "I wish I had met her and talked to her".
    Remember - if you don't use correct capitalisation, punctuation and spacing, anything you write will be incorrect.

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    Re: Expressing my regret about not seeing her

    Quote Originally Posted by Piscean View Post
    I am heart-broken. You have forgotten meeting me already.
    Oops! Mind you, I'm pretty sure the topic didn't come up - we were too busy discussing the best place to get beer and (veggie) food in Prague! Still, I should like to have discussed it with you.
    Remember - if you don't use correct capitalisation, punctuation and spacing, anything you write will be incorrect.

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    Re: Expressing my regret about not seeing her

    Quote Originally Posted by Piscean View Post
    One problem here is that few of us use what a purist might consider 'correct' forms.

    1. I should/would like to have met her.
    2. I should/would have liked to meet her.
    3. I should/would have liked to have met her.

    #1 expresses present regret at a past failure to meet her.
    #2 tells about a past regret at a past failure to meet her.
    #3 tells about a past regret at an earlier past failure to meet her.

    The situation in #3 is rare, but native speakers often use this form when one of the other two would be more 'correct' logically. This is one of those situations when we don't generally worry about what logic dictates.
    I thought if it was a past regret at an earlier past failure to meet her, the sentence would look something like "I should/would have liked to have 'had' met her."
    Please correct me if I'm wrong.

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    Re: Expressing my regret about not seeing her

    Quote Originally Posted by bonkiteng View Post
    I thought if it was a past regret at an earlier past failure to meet her, the sentence would look something like "I should/would have liked to have 'had' met her."
    Please correct me if I'm wrong.
    You are making a mess of a sentence. Your original three sentences are grammatically correct but as other people have stated are old-fashioned.

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