The following sentences are from " whether to keep your relationship or not" and I am not sure the meaning of some sentences.

1. Choose commitments both with the parent or judgemental thinking method and the child or romantic, turned on, chemistry method.(what does it mean by choose commitments and turned on??)

2.If you have any problems, don't let up until it comes out. he or she may not even know what is up just that it doesn't feel good. ( what does it mean by whatis up just that it doesn't feel good. also, can i translate just that as the meaning of because?? If possible please paraphrase this sentnece.)

I always appreciate your kind assistnace !!!