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    #11

    Re: My cousin will only be with us for dinner

    Quote Originally Posted by emsr2d2 View Post
    Somewhat off-topic: Isn't it a little mean to invite along someone who speaks no English and then spend the entire meal/evening speaking nothing but English? Even if your cousin only stays for the meal, he's going to be very bored!
    I forgot to mention that this friend is a male. We met only once. We kept in touch with each other online because we both like English.

    It's really not good to ask a woman out in the evening because I want her to feel more secure. My cousin is okay with that because he just wants to eat. He knows there will be my friend and me. If he doesn't want to come, he won't. The fact is, he was so happy.

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    #12

    Re: My cousin will only be with us for dinner

    Quote Originally Posted by Silverobama View Post
    I forgot to mention that this friend is a male. We met only once. We kept in touch with each other online because we both like English.

    It's really not good to ask a woman out in the evening because I want her to feel more secure. My cousin is okay with that because he just wants to eat. He knows there will be my friend and me. If he doesn't want to come, he won't. The fact is, he was so happy.
    Your description is ambiguous whether the friend you are inviting for dinner is a male or female, not that its matters to the original post.
    I am not a teacher or a native speaker.

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    #13

    Re: My cousin will only be with us for dinner

    Quote Originally Posted by Silverobama View Post
    I forgot to mention that this friend is a male...
    It's really not good to ask a woman out in the evening because I want her to feel more secure.
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    I'm not sure if I misunderstood you, or you actually feel that way.

    Are you aware that what you've written implies that you feel you don't need to care about someon's insecurities when you're asking them out because they're male? As in it makes you look somewhat sexist to say it's okay because you're just asking a man out, not a woman.
    Last edited by Glizdka; 14-Jul-2019 at 07:23. Reason: Removing the assumptions and projections

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    #14

    Re: My cousin will only be with us for dinner

    From a cultural point of view, to me, your post about your friend being male is completely irrelevant - it doesn't matter what sex your friend is. You used the word "friend" so we know that person is not your romantic partner (boyfriend or girlfriend).

    When I read your piece, it didn't occur to me to wonder what sex your friend is. You could have been going out for dinner with a male friend or you could have been going out for dinner with a female friend. Inviting your male cousin to join you wouldn't make any difference to how I feel.
    Remember - if you don't use correct capitalisation, punctuation and spacing, anything you write will be incorrect.

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    #15

    Re: My cousin will only be with us for dinner

    Quote Originally Posted by Silverobama View Post
    I forgot to mention that this friend is a male. We met only once beforehand. We kept in touch with each other online because we both like English.

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    You get along well with each other. That's good.
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    #16

    Re: My cousin will only be with us for dinner

    Quote Originally Posted by Silverobama View Post

    It's really not good to ask a woman out in the evening, because I would want her to feel more secure. My cousin is okay with that because he just wants to eat. He knew there would be my friend and me. If he didn't want to come, he wouldn't have. The fact is, he was so happy.
    Things turned out well, so that's good.

    You have to treat women differently, I guess. (Because they're so delicate.)
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    #17

    Re: My cousin will only be with us for dinner

    Don't expect my cousin to say much at dinner- he doesn't speak English.

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    #18

    Re: My cousin will only be with us for dinner

    And he'll be busy eating.
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    #19

    Re: My cousin will only be with us for dinner

    Quote Originally Posted by Tarheel View Post
    You have to treat women differently, I guess. (Because they're so delicate.)
    Oh yeah. Delicate. That's a word that's been used to describe me a lot. Not.
    Remember - if you don't use correct capitalisation, punctuation and spacing, anything you write will be incorrect.

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    #20

    Re: My cousin will only be with us for dinner

    Quote Originally Posted by emsr2d2 View Post
    Oh yeah. Delicate. That's a word that's been used to describe me a lot. Not.
    So it wouldn't be a good idea for me to assume you didn't know how to open a car door?
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