Results 1 to 5 of 5
  1. Newbie
    Student or Learner
    • Member Info
      • Native Language:
      • American English
      • Home Country:
      • United States
      • Current Location:
      • United States

    • Join Date: Sep 2020
    • Posts: 1
    #1

    The use of our vs. my

    Is it ever considered standard or proper English to refer to "my father" or "my mother" when speaking with a sibling who shares the same parents, or is "our" parent more correct in all cases?

  2. emsr2d2's Avatar
    Moderator
    English Teacher
    • Member Info
      • Native Language:
      • British English
      • Home Country:
      • UK
      • Current Location:
      • UK

    • Join Date: Jul 2009
    • Posts: 56,366
    #2

    Re: The use of our vs. my

    Welcome to the forum.

    I would find it highly unnatural in English. I'm aware, though, that in other languages it's certainly done. I watch quite a lot of Spanish TV series and I've noticed that in conversations with siblings, "mi madre/padre" are used.

    (I've moved this thread to the General Language Discussions as it's more about natural English usage rather than something that needs to be addressed by a teacher.)
    Remember - if you don't use correct capitalisation, punctuation and spacing, anything you write will be incorrect.

  3. Charlie Bernstein's Avatar
    VIP Member
    Other
    • Member Info
      • Native Language:
      • English
      • Home Country:
      • United States
      • Current Location:
      • United States

    • Join Date: Jan 2009
    • Posts: 6,944
    #3

    Re: The use of our vs. my

    Right.

    And in the US, siblings talking to each other are much more likely to say "Mom and Dad," rather than "our parents": Mom and Dad are having a cookout this weekend.
    I'm not a teacher. I speak American English. I've tutored writing at the University of Southern Maine and have done a good deal of copy editing and writing, occasionally for publication.

  4. emsr2d2's Avatar
    Moderator
    English Teacher
    • Member Info
      • Native Language:
      • British English
      • Home Country:
      • UK
      • Current Location:
      • UK

    • Join Date: Jul 2009
    • Posts: 56,366
    #4

    Re: The use of our vs. my

    Quote Originally Posted by Charlie Bernstein View Post
    Right.

    And in the US, siblings talking to each other are much more likely to say "Mom and Dad," rather than "our parents": Mom and Dad are having a cookout this weekend.
    That's the same in the UK.
    Remember - if you don't use correct capitalisation, punctuation and spacing, anything you write will be incorrect.

  5. Moderator
    Interested in Language
    • Member Info
      • Native Language:
      • American English
      • Home Country:
      • United States
      • Current Location:
      • United States

    • Join Date: Dec 2015
    • Posts: 19,333
    #5

    Re: The use of our vs. my

    "Our parents" works in some contexts. "Our parents were out of the mainstream. Nobody else's parents took their kids on summer trips behind the Iron Curtain in a VW camper!"
    I am not a teacher.

Posting Permissions

  • You may not post new threads
  • You may not post replies
  • You may not post attachments
  • You may not edit your posts
  •