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    Sorry, for hurting you.

    "Sorry, to hurt you". We say this before doing something that can hurt the other person.

    "Sorry, to have hurt you". We say this when we have already hurt someone and now we want to apologise.


    Does "Sorry, for hurting you" have the same meaning as "Sorry, to have hurt you"? Are these interchangeable?

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    Re: Sorry, for hurting you.

    Quote Originally Posted by tufguy View Post
    Does "Sorry (no comma) for hurting you" have the same meaning as "Sorry (no comma) to have hurt you"? Are these interchangeable?
    No. The first suggests the injury is in the near future. In the second, it's in the past.
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    Re: Sorry, for hurting you.

    I think the second (to have hurt) and the third (for hurting) are the same and can be used interchangeably.
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    Re: Sorry, for hurting you.

    Quote Originally Posted by GoesStation View Post
    No. The first suggests the injury is in the near future. In the second, it's in the past.
    Okay, so "sorry for hurting you" or "sorry for making you wait" or "sorry for the delay". All these mean that all these actions are going to be done in the near future and we are apologising beforehand. Am I correct? So "sorry for making you wait but I will have to put you on hold" and "sorry to make you wait but I will have to put you on hold" mean the same thing. Am I correct?

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    Re: Sorry, for hurting you.

    Quote Originally Posted by tufguy View Post
    Okay, so "Sorry for hurting you", or "Sorry for making you wait" or "Sorry for the delay" no full stop here all these mean that all these actions are going to be done in the near future and we are apologising beforehand. Am I correct?
    No. See below.

    So "Sorry for making you wait but I will have to put you on hold" and "Sorry to make you wait but I will have to put you on hold" mean the same thing. Am I correct?
    The first three are all most likely to be used after the relevant action has taken place. With the first, if the hurting is in the future, we'd say something like "Sorry. This is going to hurt" or "Sorry. I'm going to hurt you". The second is likely to be said when the person has already started waiting. The third could be used at any point when there's a delay. It could have already happened, it could be ongoing or it could be in the near future. As always, it depends on context.

    The last two sentences mean the same as each other.
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    Re: Sorry, for hurting you.

    Quote Originally Posted by emsr2d2 View Post
    The first three are all most likely to be used after the relevant action has taken place. With the first, if the hurting is in the future, we'd say something like "Sorry. This is going to hurt" or "Sorry. I'm going to hurt you". The second is likely to be said when the person has already started waiting. The third could be used at any point when there's a delay. It could have already happened, it could be ongoing or it could be in the near future. As always, it depends on context.

    The last two sentences mean the same as each other.
    I am more confused now.

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    Re: Sorry, for hurting you.

    Quote Originally Posted by emsr2d2 View Post
    The first three are all most likely to be used after the relevant action has taken place. With the first, if the hurting is in the future, we'd say something like "Sorry. This is going to hurt" or "Sorry. I'm going to hurt you". The second is likely to be said when the person has already started waiting. The third could be used at any point when there's a delay. It could have already happened, it could be ongoing or it could be in the near future. As always, it depends on context.

    The last two sentences mean the same as each other.
    the same meaning. Am I correct?

    I am confused now. When do we use "continuous" and when do we have to use "to" in these kinds of sentences? Could you please elaborate?

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    Re: Sorry, for hurting you.

    Quote Originally Posted by tufguy View Post
    "Sorry, to hurt you". We say this before doing something that can hurt the other person.

    Yes. And we can also say it after we have hurt them.


    "Sorry, to have hurt you". We say this when we have already hurt someone and now we want to apologise.

    Yes.


    Does "Sorry, for hurting you" have the same meaning as "Sorry, to have hurt you"?

    Sometimes. The first can be before or after. The second can only be after.


    Are these interchangeable?

    No.
    You can also say, "Sorry I hurt you." This is always after. There, hurt is past tense.
    I'm not a teacher. I speak American English. I've tutored writing at the University of Southern Maine and have done a good deal of copy editing and writing, occasionally for publication.

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    Re: Sorry, for hurting you.

    Does "Sorry, for hurting you" have the same meaning as "Sorry, to have hurt you"?

    Sometimes. The first can be before or after. The second can only be after.

    Wouldn't it be strange to say "Sorry for hurting you" before you actually hurt someone?
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    Re: Sorry, for hurting you.

    I wouldn't use it.

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