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    Addressing Cards

    When addressing a letter or card to a married woman which is the appropriate way to address it?
    Would it be:
    Mrs. Mike Robinson
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    Mrs. Amy Robinson
    We are having a debate about this at work. We send out birthday cards to our customers and when addressing envelopes we have several different people doing it differently. Can you help us??

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    How is she listed in your database? Send it that way.

    Ms. Amy Johnson will always work.

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    [I'm not a teacher.]

    It is safe to address Ms. Amy Robinson.

    Some women prefer remaining their own maiden name even after they are married, so "Ms." is safe. Some women give up their maiden name and follow their husband's family name, for example, Mr. John Smith, Mrs. Mary Smith. The address of "Ms." doesn't indicate whether the surname is a maiden name or not.

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    It is safe to address Ms. Amy Robinson.
    Daffodils, Robinson looks like the husband's surname though.
    Ms is used with the maiden name.

    In western countries, Mrs Amy Robinson would be the norm
    In Asian countries, both are used.

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    Hello Tedtmc,

    Thanks for your response. Please read the definition about Ms. from Cambridge Dictionary.

    Ms (TITLE) / noun [u]
    a title used before the family name or the full name of a woman, whether she is married or not:
    Ms Hill/Ms Paula Hill
    [as form of address] What can I do for you, Ms Wood?

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    Daffodils
    Point noted.
    The thing is, you don't use the husband's surname together with the maiden name with the title 'Ms'.


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    Daffodils:

    At times such these, with we mere mortals struggling with matters of convention, we must turn to our ultimate authority...Emily Post's Etiquette.

    Here is the official word:

    If a woman named Jane Wilson marries Fernando Gomez, she may choose to call herself any of these:

    Ms. Jane Wilson
    Ms. Jane Gomez
    Mrs. Jane Gomez
    Mrs. Fernando Gomez
    Mrs. Jane Wilson-Gomez
    Ms. Jane Wilson-Gomez
    Mrs. Jane Wilson Gomez
    Ms. Jane Wilson Gomez
    Mrs. Jane W. Gomez (with W for Wilson)
    Ms. Jane W. Gomez (with W for Wilson)

    In addressing an envelop, if you know the title your Jane prefers, use it. If you don't know, ask her. When the woman's preference is unknown, the standard courtesy title in business writing is "Ms."

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    Hello David L.,

    Thank you for your illustration. Some addresses are new to me. I'm glad to learn these from you.


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    Quote Originally Posted by Unregistered View Post
    When addressing a letter or card to a married woman which is the appropriate way to address it?
    Would it be:
    Mrs. Mike Robinson
    or
    Mrs. Amy Robinson
    We are having a debate about this at work. We send out birthday cards to our customers and when addressing envelopes we have several different people doing it differently. Can you help us??

    Formally, if the woman is still married to the man, it should be Mrs Mike Robinson.

    If she is widowed or divorced, it will be Mrs Amy Robinson.

    Since you are unlikely to know which is correct, do not let it worry you. Use what you like.

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    Re: Addressing Cards

    Quote Originally Posted by tedtmc View Post
    Daffodils, Robinson looks like the husband's surname though.
    Ms is used with the maiden name.

    In western countries, Mrs Amy Robinson would be the norm
    In Asian countries, both are used.
    Quote Originally Posted by tedtmc View Post
    Daffodils
    Point noted.
    The thing is, you don't use the husband's surname together with the maiden name with the title 'Ms'.
    I'm sorry, but neither of these is correct.

    As Anglika says, formally, Mrs. Amy Robinson would imply she HAD been married to Mr. Robinson and is now divorced. This convention is rarely used any longer.

    For the people who prefer to be addressed as "Mrs." instead of "Ms." you can safely assume that it's her husband's surname. However, for people who prefer Ms. you have NO way of knowing if the name is her maiden name or her husband's surname.

    Married women who have taken their husband's surname use Ms. with great frequency.

    I have it easy. I married a man who has the same last name as me. If someone asks me if it's my maiden name or married name, I can say "yes."

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