"It is what it is" is a relatively new and often used AmE phrase - much to the consternation of most Americans. It was on the annual "banned words" (or phrases) list.
It is a way of saying one accepts the current situation. It can also mean: Things are as they are. What you see is what you get. That's the reality of the situation.
What is it? is simply a question.
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