[Vocabulary] Looking for the right word

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If somebody offends me and, instead of raising hell, or offending them back, I just say: "Yes, that's right. Who told you that?", with a smile on my face, what word would describe my reaction? Sarcastic? Ironical? Cynical? None of them?
 

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Are you trying to placate them or goad them?
 

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Are you trying to placate them or goad them?

I'm trying to surprise them (and consequently, annoy them) by showing that I'm comfortable in my own skin, not vulnerable. The most important thing is to show that their rude comment didn't affect me at all.
 

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How about: play cool?
 

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And what is the corresponding adjective, if there is one? I think it's important to say that, although I'm saying "Yes", confirming what was said to me, my intonation suggests that I don't agree with the comment. That's why I thought the words could be "sarcastic" or "ironical".
 

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How about unruffled?
 

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I would assume you were either being polite, or you didn't understand the insult, or you were being sarcastic. In writing, it would be hard to tell. If you were speaking, there would be other clues such as your tone of voice and the look on your face.
 

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I'm trying to surprise them (and consequently, annoy them) by showing that I'm comfortable in my own skin, not vulnerable. The most important thing is to show that their rude comment didn't affect me at all.

If you're trying to annoy (goad) them, then you're vulnerable and have been affected. You've chosen to respond rudely.
 

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Does it make any difference if I say "disappoint" instead of "annoy"? In the case I mentioned, I'm not being vulnerable and I wasn't affected. That's just a style to reply to an offense. Sorry if I couldn't express the mood perfectly.
 
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