"to" or "for"?

When you use "give" in S+V+O eg: I gave a paper plane to the boy.
And you use the preposition "to".
When you use "buy" eg: She bought a skateboard for her son.
And you use the preposition "for".

Do you have any rules to choose "to" or "for" according to verbs?
I checked my grammar book, and it says that there are two types of verbs
like "buy" and "give".
But it is so hard for me ( non-native speaker) to find which word is in the group of "buy" or "give".

And the grammar book says:
Please bring that chair to me. ( You might not sit on the chair, it might
be for another person.)
Please bring that chair for me. ( You would like to sit on that chair, so
asked to bring.)
Is that right?
Do you have other examples like these sentences?

Thank you for your help.

[Casiopea]

Originally Posted by agnes

When you use "give" in S+V+O eg: I gave a paper plane to the boy.
And you use the preposition "to".
When you use "buy" eg: She bought a skateboard for her son.
And you use the preposition "for".

Do you have any rules to choose "to" or "for" according to verbs?
I checked my grammar book, and it says that there are two types of verbs
like "buy" and "give".
But it is so hard for me ( non-native speaker) to find which word is in the group of "buy" or "give".

And the grammar book says:
Please bring that chair to me. ( You might not sit on the chair, it might
be for another person.)
Please bring that chair for me. ( You would like to sit on that chair, so
asked to bring.)
Is that right?
Do you have other examples like these sentences?

Thank you for your help.

Use for when someone benefits from the action, and use to when the objects moves in the direction towards something or someone, like this,

I brought a chair for Sam. ('Sam' benefits from the action.)
I brought a chair for myself. (I benefit from the action.)
I brought a chair to the table. (The chair moves in the direction towards the table.)

I made a cake for Pat. ('Pat' gets the cake! Pat benefits.)
I made a cake to Pat. (Ungrammatical. Use a movement verb, like 'give'.)

I gave a cake to Pat. (The 'cake' moves in the direction towards Pat. Pat also benefits, but don't use 'for'. The verb 'give' already has the meaning of benefit within its meaning.)

I wrote a letter for Pat. ('Pat' benefits. Someone else did the work.)
I wrote a letter to Pat. (The 'letter' moves in the direction of 'Pat'.)

I will buy a cake for Sam. ('Sam' benefits. Someone else does the buying.)
I will buy a cake to Sam. (Ungrammatical. 'buy' expresses an exchange of items (money and things bought) so 'for' is best.

Try these out with other verbs and see what you come up with. If you find a verb that doesn't fit into the above patterns, post it here and we can talk about it. :D

All the best,

Dear Teachers,
Thank you for your replies.
I understand the reason to use "to" or "for". I really appreciate!!

:D agnes

[Casiopea]

Originally Posted by norikoagnes

Dear Teachers,
Thank you for your replies.
I understand the reason to use "to" or "for". I really appreciate!!

:D agnes

You are very welcome. :D

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Sentence Structure with two objects:




• In simple sentences the object is easy to see:
She hit him.
They took the money.

• Some verbs, however, have two objects:
She gave me the book. ( = she gave the book to me)

The book is the real object of this sentence. It tells us what she gave.
"Book" is the direct object (D.O.)
"ME" is the indirect object (l.O.)



FORM 1. VERB + DIRECT OBJECT + TO OR FOR + INDIRECT OBJECT.
Give the money to him


FORM 2. VERB + INDIRECT OBJECT WITHOUT TO OR FOR + DIRECT OBJECT.
Give him the money


Note: that it is not possible to use the second form when the direct object is a pronoun
(me, her, him, it, etc]. The longer construction must be used:
Give it to John. (NOT Give John it.)





Subject + Verb + Indirect Object + Direct Object.

James gave Michael a Cd. - Emma gave Rachel a book

James = Subject
Gave = Verb
Michael = Indirect Object
A Cd = Direct Object





Subject + Verb + Direct Object + Phrase with to/for

James gave a Cd to Michael. - We bought ice-creams for all the children

James = Subject
Gave = Verb
A Cd = Direct Object
to Michael = Phrase with to/for (Indirect Object)




TO OR FOR

To = We give something to someone
Bring, give, hand, lend, offer, owe, pass, pay, post, promise, read, sell, send, show, take, teach, tell, throw, write.



For = We buy something for someone
Book, bring, build, buy, choose, cook, fetch, find, get, leave, order, pick, reserve, save.

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Tell and Say:

"Tell" has a personal direct object
She told me she was going to be late.
"It's too late" She told me.

"Say" never has a personal direct object
She said she was going to be late.

With "say" the indirect object is used instead. (To me, to her, to us, etc)
"I don´t like them very much" She said to me quietly


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Other Uses. "For"


FOR can be used to talk about somebody's purpose in doing something, but only when it is followed by a noun.

We stopped at the pub for a drink.
I went to the college for an interview with Professor Taylor.
(A drink, an interview are nouns)

You cannot use for before a verb in this sense. The infinitive alone is used to express a person's purpose.
We stopped at the pub to have a drink
I went to the college to see Professor Taylor


You can use for before "ing" to express the "purpose" of a thing (what it is used for) especially when the thing is the subject of the clause.

Subject = that Cake, An Altimeter, etc.
Is that cake for eating or just for looking at?
An altimeter is used for measuring height above sea level.


But when the clause has a person as subject, it is more common to use an infinitive to express the purpose of a thing.

Subject = We, James, She, etc.
We use altimeters to measure height above sea level.

[souba]

'Give sth to sb' is an idiomatic use. We can't say: I gave some money for him, even if it(money) benefits him. Still,we can use the above sentence where 'him' is not indirect object. For example: I gave some money to John for him.

"Buy sb sth" is preferrable to "buy sth for sb'.