UpDating: How to Date Out of Your League

This book was a good read; however, I found that the end was a bit surprising. Good read to build confidence and allow you to see what is really important...

Lowndes seems to be dealing with a different age group than my own -- the post-menopausal woman whose value on the marriage market has limited trade value. A pedestrian version of what interpersonal communication and psychology researchers refer to as social exchange theory, the book offers practical advice for developing the social skills and contacts that will propel one into circles more moneyed than the ones in which one currently circulates. The dust jacket flap asks, "Do you crave someone creative, interesting and maybe famous," but I couldn't find any particular examples about penetrating artistic, musical or bohemian co-cultures. Maybe my eyes fell shut first, and I missed it.

The title of this book should read: "A BIBLE FOR THE DESPERATE SHALLOW SOCIAL CLIMBER." And since Ms. Lowndes doesn't bother with political/ethical or any kind of correctness, I'm surprised that the title says otherwise. This book would have been a lot wiser if it just said : Do not pick your mate out of desperation, but first, strive for happiness and better things in life. THEN pick a good mate who is like you and therefore would be compatible with you." AND THAT IS IT. But no, she had to go into the whole issue of class, which she got COMPLETELY wrong. I have NEWS for you, Ms. Lowndes, it is only shallow self-gratifying rich people who believe in class, nowadays. A lot of people with very humble origins have a LOT OF CLASS, as you call it. Class is not money, class is not FAKING or being rich, class is NOT gas stoves and parquet floors. You are sadly mistaken and you're broadcasting this nonsense for all to hear.
Having class means possessing certain qualities irregardless of the bank account balance. And I'm most certainly sure that a classy person doesn't divide people into frogs and leagues. If you can't do, teach... eh? I especially appreciated the end of the book, where Ms. Lowndes warns about the dangers of being a high-class faker, but then promises to pray for those who chose do go down that road anyway. That's just precious!

This book is not only published by the best publisher that is the best academic publisher out their. But unlike most self help books it focuses more on the you can do it attitude rather then you screwed up now lets fix it or someone else did (like your ex) and you need to realize it.This Is a best selling author for a reason folks! And although some of the info in this book isn't brain surgery to already know for those who need reminding/verification in a humorous way this certainly is! This author rocks even if her knowledge isn't all accurate occasionally or hard to already obtain without this book.

Author of How To Make Anyone Fall in Love with You, Leil Lowndes, writes this book in an informative style. She repeats many ideas from the first book. While there are a few things to learn from this book, I was looking for more depth.