Sex and the Teenager: Choices and Decisions

I wish I had a role model sit down with me when I was a young man and do something like this book with me. Now I am a young father trying to raise a son on my own because I tried to build a relationship on sex. I knew every fact and statistic there was and every one of them flies out the window when you are not morally grounded. Setting us "free" to our sexuality is the reason that divorce rates and diseases are climbing through the roof. Praise God I didnt catch an STD but many friends did. If your book changes one young persons life then it should be applauded. These comments from people that are educated beyond their intellect show why our nation is falling apart at the schools. My heart aches for the pain I have caused many women and for the pain many others will incur because of this attitude. The men also that try to do the right thing and still lose. Of all the pain and loss and mistakes in my life the only regret I have is that I did not wait until marriage. Sex is for a husband and a wife, period.

In these modern times, books that promote abstinence are irrelevant to teenagers. Teens who are developing relationships need advice to keep them safe from the inevitable consequences of intimacy, not religion based abstinence. If the point of this book is to steer teenagers into early marriage before developing maturity and the skills to promote lasting relationships, the divorce rate, single parent rate and STD rate will continue to be unacceptably high.

What have the youth of America do to deserve this weak, uninformed, factless, baseless attack on their self image and sexuality. I am completely against the idea of book-burning, but the entrie print run on this one should be reserved for use as ballast when sand is running low for filling sandbags.

In a world where teens are exposed to a lot of sexual information and sexual stimulation, it does not help to attempt to control their behavior by preaching morality and attempting to instill guilt and shame. Early sex-negative indoctrination is not easily reversed and can impact later adult sexual relationships.

Books for teens should focus on responsible decision making, realistic appraisal of consequences, and endorsement of freedom to be naturally curious. Sexual feelings are not immoral, sexual thoughts are not sinful, and all informed sexual options should be carefully considered.

This is just another outdated abstinence book. Teenagers deserve more. They deserve honest relevance, not moralizing. They deserve sex positive treatments that relate to who they are and how they behave. This is totally irrelevant to today's teenagers, who are sexually active.