[1] If the person is of my age(26) .. still addressing as Mr. Doe won't be overly polite?
[2] I don't know how to address people in this online setting.
***** NOT A TEACHER *****
Hello, Arihant9n:
Your thread is very important. It shows that learning another language involves the grammar
and the culture.
If you read and
reread the advice of the posters in this thread, you will start to get an idea of how English-language speakers address one another.
It is, of course, impossible to cover every aspect in a single thread.
[2] I know how you feel. I am an old man who has always been very formal. When I was working, I always addressed everyone as Mr. ___ or Mrs. / Miss / Ms. ___. And everyone always addressed me as Mr. ____.
In this forum, I have been admonished (gently warned) to address other members simply by their user name. For example, I would simply address you as Arihant9n. It would be inappropriate to address you as "Student / Member / Learner Arihant9n."
It
is difficult for me to break my habit of formality. For example, there is a member whose name is, let's say, "John Doe." I usually refer to him as "Mr. Doe." And there is a teacher whose user name is, let's say, "Jane." I always refer to her as "Teacher Jane." I do this because I greatly respect her, and I want to show due respect. Nevertheless, I suggest that you
NOT copy me.
[1] It is impossible to explain such a big subject in a short post. But you are correct: being
overly polite can be
misunderstood.
a. One day I was on a bus. The driver courteously answered a young man with "Sir." The young man yelled, "Don't call me 'Sir.' I'm not old!"
b. One time, I answered a mature woman (in her 60's?) with "Yes, ma'am." She became very angry and said, "Ma'am?
You are older than
I am!"
c. One time, I answered a medical doctor's questions with "Yes / No, sir." He was not pleased. He looked at me and asked, "Were you in the army?"
I personally think that it's great that you live in a society in which people show proper respect to one another by the way they address one another.
Please remember, however, that here in the United States, people are much more informal. You can often answer with a simple "Yes" or "No." You can ask a question without saying the other person's name. I suggest that you carefully watch American movies to give you some idea of how people interact with one another.