for my husband and I (or 'me')?

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marionpeter2000

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Hi, I am not a teacher.
I would however appreciate if someone could help me with the following:

Is it correct to say:

"I am preparing dinner for my husband and I."

or "I am preparing dinner for my husband and me."

Thanks for clearing this one up.

Marion
 

SoothingDave

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If you had no husband, would you say "I am preparing dinner for I"?
 

TheParser

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Hi, I am not a teacher.
I would however appreciate if someone could help me with the following:

Is it correct to say:

"I am preparing dinner for my husband and I."

or "I am preparing dinner for my husband and me."

Thanks for clearing this one up.

Marion

***** NOT A TEACHER *****


(1) Some native speakers use "I" because they do not know the rule and

because some of them think it sounds more elegant than "me."

(2) Simply remember this rule and you will never make a similar mistake

again:

Always (no exceptions) use the objective form of the pronoun after

a preposition:

I'm preparing dinner for my husband and me.
The Smiths are going to Paris with my husband and me.
In the movie theater, some noisy people were sitting behind my husband and me.
 

emsr2d2

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The trick here is to construct the sentence for each person involved as if they were the only person.

She is making dinner for my husband.
She is making dinner for me (not she is making dinner for I).
therefore: She is making dinner for my husband and me.

Do you want to go to the cinema with your cousin?
Do you want to go to the cinema with me?
therefore: Do you want to go to the cinema with your cousin and me?

You can use the same method to work out if it's correct to use "I"

My husband is going to Jamaica.
I am going to Jamaica.
therefore: My husband and I are going to Jamaica.

My boss is going to the meeting.
I am going to the meeting.
My boss and I are going to the meeting.
 
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