Yes thank you very much :)

[LillyLou]

I answered him nicely and then came this. Is he ending the contact or does he want to resume contact?

Thanks in advance!

 

[Skrej]

We'd need a bit more of the conversation to say with certainty, but as is, it reads like a platitude.

I'm guessing that you wished him well or perhaps asked if he was doing well. He then stated 'yes' to your question, and followed with the normal, socially expected polite response. It's almost impossible to tell from written text whether he's sincere or just being polite. You need to see facial reactions and hear to hear inflections to accurately gauge the sincerity and actual interest.

Is he ending the contact or does he want to resume contact?

That's not clear from the given excerpt.

 

[LillyLou]

We'd need a bit more of the conversation to say with certainty, but as is, it reads like a platitude.

I'm guessing that you wished him well or perhaps asked if he was doing well. He then stated 'yes' to your question, and followed with the normal, socially expected polite response. It's almost impossible to tell from written text whether he's sincere or just being polite. You need to see facial reactions and hear to hear inflections to accurately gauge the sincerity and actual interest.


That's not clear from the given excerpt.

Ok, so he resumed contact after weeks:

1. HE: Hi, I'm all very sorry and I think I owe you an explanation because it's never nice when something like this happens. I was very ill (..explaining his illness..). I hope you have been doing well and your job is going well!

2. ME: Hello, I am very sorry (.. very understanding..) Hopefully you get better quickly!

3. HIM: Thank you very much and I hope everything is going well with you as well

 

[Tarheel]

Is this a polite way of ending the conversation or is it an indirect question with genuine interest?
Normally I would think that because it's not a question, it's not genuine interest.
It's about someone who wanted some distance and has now written again with an explanation.
I answered him nicely and then came this. Is he ending the contact or does he want to resume contact?

[..........]

By "contact" do you mean "relationship"?

 

[LillyLou]

long term dating

 

[Tarheel]

That's a relationship.

 

[Tarheel]

Ok, so he resumed contact after A FEW weeks:

1. HE: Hi, I'm all very sorry and I think I owe you an explanation because it's never nice when something like this happens. I was very ill (..explaining his illness..). I hope you have been doing well and your job is going well!

2. ME: Hello, I am very sorry (.. very understanding..) Hopefully YOU'LL get better quickly!

3. HIM: Thank you very much and I hope everything is going well with you as well

It's hard to tell much about the relationship from that. Both parties are being polite. Neither is rude to the other. Anything else would be a guess.

 

[LillyLou]

Okay, thats what I thought as well. Thanks for your help understanding the "in between the lines" better.

 

[probus]

@LillyLou Please note that I have edited your post. "Inbetween" and "okey" are not words.

 

[emsr2d2]

By "contact" do you mean "relationship"?

How on earth did you work that out from the excerpts given? They all sounded entirely platonic to me. I was really surprised when the OP confirmed they were talking about dating.

 

[Tarheel]

How does a person explain
What goes on in his brain?

I simply asked a question to either confirm or deny what I was thinking.

(The war on punctuation is a kind of guerrilla warfare. It's not out in the open.)

 

[LillyLou]

Thank you for all of your answers and your help! I apprechiate it

Because this is very embarrassing, would you mind, if we can delete this thread?

 

[Rover_KE]

We don't delete threads with replies that other members may find helpful.

Your anonymity gives you protection from any embarrassment you may be experiencing.

 

[emsr2d2]

We don’t delete threads once there are responses because other users might find them helpful. I’ll lock the thread for you so no one else will respond and the thread will gradually slip further and further down the page.
There’s nothing to be embarrassed about.