to your side vs by your side!

[david11]

1)Appeasing him will not get him to your side

2)Appeasing him will not get him by your side.

Which one is correct or more natural?

 

[5jj]

I'd use 'on your side'.

 

[david11]

I'd use 'on your side'.

I thought about it but I felt "getting" him "on" my side is in process and "to" would be appropriate.


For example:

1) The dish is on the table(It is already there and no process involved!).

2)Bring the dish to the table(It is in process and not yet on the table).


Regarding "by", I guess it can be used when we literally mean to get someone to (or by) our side like keeping him stand next to us as opposed to before us. Is my understanding correct?

 

[probus]

This is a matter of idiom and there's no use attempting to reason about it.

A person to your side is literally beside you.
A person by your side can also be literally beside you, but could also be accompanying you in a friendly, supportive and possibly figurative way.
But a person who is on your side is someone who has decided to be your friend and ally.