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[Rachel Adams]

Hello.

Some women refuse to have more children in their second or third marriages. If I disagree and say "I think it has nothing to do with wether it is a woman's first or second marriage but with her actual desire/wish to have more children" would my sentence be correct? This statement is not from a book.

 

[GoesStation]

That sentence is fine. It's more natural to contract "it's". You misspelled a word.

 

[Rachel Adams]

That sentence is fine. It's more natural to contract "it's". You misspelled a word.

It should be "whether."

 

[Rachel Adams]

That sentence is fine. It's more natural to contract "it's". You misspelled a word.

Can I also say "It's not related to whether it's a woman's first or second marriage but to her actual desire or wish to have more children"?

 

[Tarheel]

I would say:

She just doesn't want to have any more kids.

 

[Rachel Adams]

I would say:

She just doesn't want to have any more kids.

Is "Related" wrong?

 

[Tarheel]

The word "related" is perfectly good there. (She doesn't have a desire to have more kids. (The opposite is true.) So I wouldn't use that at all.)

 

[Rachel Adams]

The word "related" is perfectly good there. (She doesn't have a desire to have more kids. (The opposite is true.) So I wouldn't use that at all.)

So this statement is not wrong, is it? "It's not related to whether it's a woman's first or second marriage but to her actual desire or wish to have more children"?

 

[Tarheel]

Try:

She doesn't want to have any more kids, and it has nothing to do with her being in her second (or third) marriage. She just doesn't want to have any more kids.

 

[Rachel Adams]

Try:

She doesn't want to have any more kids, and it has nothing to do with her being in her second (or third) marriage. She just doesn't want to have any more kids.

Yes, I understand that we can rephrase and use more natural utterances but is using "it isn't related to whether..." wrong because it's unnatural or because it is wrong grammatically?
"It's not related to whether it's a woman's first or second marriage but to her actual desire or wish to have more children"?

 

[GoesStation]

Yes, I understand that we can rephrase and use more natural utterances but is using "it isn't related to whether..." wrong because it's unnatural or because it is wrong grammatically?
"It's not related to whether it's a woman's first or second marriage but to her actual desire or wish to have more children"?

That's okay. I'd use "desire" here.

 

[Tarheel]

The phrase "her desire to have more children" seems wrong to me. That's because she doesn't want to have more children.

(You're married to the word "actually", aren't you?)