Sorry, to have hurt you..

[tufguy]

1) Sorry, to hurt you.

2) Sorry, to have hurt you.

3) Sorry, to offend you.

4) Sorry, to have offended you.

Are all these correct? If so, what is the difference between the ones with "have" and the ones without "have"?

 

[Tarheel]

First, there should be no commas in any of them. In two and four the person is apologizing for something they have done. In one and three the person is apologizing for something they haven't done (yet).

 

[tufguy]

First, there should be no commas in any of them. In two and four the person is apologizing for something they have done. In one and three the person is apologizing for something they haven't done (yet).

Sorry, I am confused now.

"Sorry to hurt you" or "sorry to offend you" or "sorry to misguide you". In all these sentences we are apologosing for something that we haven't done yet however, we are going to do it in the near future. If we use "have" so it means we have already done something wrong.

Here are the examples.

1) Sorry to offend you but you are too short for this postion. We are looking for someone taller.

2) Sorry to have offended you on the other day when I commented on your looks.


Is it going to be the same for "sorry to misguide you"?

 

[Tarheel]

I don't see any reason for confusion. You have it exactly right.

P.S. I would delete so after "have" in your post.

 

[tufguy]

First, there should be no commas in any of them. In two and four the person is apologizing for something they have done. In one and three the person is apologizing for something they haven't done (yet).

We say "sorry to make you wait". Is it wrong as well. Do we need to say "sorry to have made you wait"? Do we need to say "sorry to make you wait" before we put someone on hold over the phone or make them wait for a while?

 

[Tarheel]

We say "sorry to make you wait". Is it wrong as well? Do we need to say "sorry to have made you wait"? Do we need to say "sorry to make you wait" before we put someone on hold over the phone or make them wait for a while?

It depends on whether we are speaking before or after the fact.

One, I didn't say anything was wrong. Two, if you want to apologize for putting somebody on hold that's up to you.

 

[tufguy]

It depends on whether we are speaking before or after the fact.

One, I didn't say anything was wrong. Two, if you want to apologize for putting somebody on hold that's up to you.

If we are saying this before doing something it is correct to say "sorry to make you wait but it will take me a few minutes to get ready so you will have to wait a little bit more" or "sorry to offend you but I won't be able to come to the party. I will try to come next time". Am I correct?

If we have already done the deed we can say "sorry to have made you wait. It took me long to get ready however, I am ready now and we can leave " or "sorry to have offended you the other day by refusing your proposal. I apologise for that". Did I get it right?

 

[Tarheel]

If we are saying this before doing something it is correct to say "sorry to make you wait but it will take me a few minutes to get ready so you will have to wait a little bit more" or "sorry to offend you but I won't be able to come to the party. I will try to come next time". Am I correct?

If we have already done the deed we can say "sorry to have made you wait. It took me too long to get ready however, I am ready now and we can leave " or "sorry to have offended you the other day by refusing your proposal. I apologise for that". Did I get it right?

Yep.