"Your mother" wouldn’t allow it.

[user_user]

A letter to my mom - what I'd like my deceased mother to know

Dear Mom, First, let me apologize for taking so long to write. It’s been 48 years since you left us. You, just 29, and me, just three and a half. This letter is long overdue. I’m 51 now. It’s not a ripe old age […]

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"I so wish that you had left me a letter.​

I put myself in your shoes and imagined writing a love letter to Anna, so that if she, like me, ever had to look into the corners of her mind for memories of her mother, she would have no doubt that I had really existed and that I loved her. I tried to feel how you must have felt, knowing that you wouldn’t be able to see your role through to the end. To be a dying mom, I thought, might actually be harder than being the daughter of a mom who’s died. But if that was your experience, I shall never know because the letter never came.

When I eventually asked Dad why you hadn’t left a note, he said you hadn’t actually known you were dying. Your hospital records concurred that you had in fact never been told you had cancer. Your mother wouldn’t allow it. She was determined to keep you hopeful to the very end."

Question:
Who does "your mother" here refer to? The author's grandma? The author's grandma wouldn't allow her daughter (=author's mom) to know she (=author's mom) had cancer and was determined to keep her hopeful to the very end?

 

[SoothingDave]

Yes, correct.

 

[Tarheel]

A letter to my mom - what I'd like my deceased mother to know

Dear Mom, First, let me apologize for taking so long to write. It’s been 48 years since you left us. You, just 29, and me, just three and a half. This letter is long overdue. I’m 51 now. It’s not a ripe old age […]

vivfortoday.com

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"I so wish that you had left me a letter.​

When I eventually asked Dad why you hadn’t left a note, he said you hadn’t actually known you were dying. Your hospital records concurred that you had in fact never been told you had cancer. Your mother wouldn’t allow it. She was determined to keep you hopeful to the very end.

The "I" is the author. The "you" is the mother.

You need to put yourself in the position of the person writing the letter.