The usage of "if" and if that is considered rude

[FeemSoul]

Let's say my friend is in another country, and me and him are chatting. If he told me is getting a really bad headache, would it be rude to say "You should probably sleep". Usually, when people have a bad headache and they sleep, they get better. I just want him to get better.

If I say "if I was to be in the same country, I would take care of him." Does this imply that even if I am not in the same country as he is, I want him to get better? What does this imply? or does it imply that if I wasn't, I won't be able to take care of him?

 

[EmmaRey]

Let's say my friend is in another country, and me and him are chatting. If he told me is getting a really bad headache, would it be rude to say "You should probably sleep". Usually, when people have a bad headache and they sleep, they get better. I just want him to get better.

If I say "if I was to be in the same country, I would take care of him." Does this imply that even if I am not in the same country as he is, I want him to get better? What does this imply? or does it imply that if I wasn't, I won't be able to take care of him?

If you fear to be rude, you can say something like this: "maybe you should go and take a rest first. We can chat later" or "I wish to be in...so that I can take care of you!"

 

[Tdol]

1 You could ask something like Why don't you get some sleep/rest? as a way of suggesting it to him.

2 I would use If I were in the same country, I would take care of him, which implies that I am not in the same country.