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Glizdka

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Hello, a quick question, especially for female users.

How do you feel about using you guys? I've heard it used to a group of females only. I think it might be common enough to just effectively mean the same as you all, but at the same time, guys is intrinsically male.

Do you notice/feel it when someone uses you guys?

M: Hi guys! What are you up to?
F: Nothing much. We're just wondering why people use you guys when talking to a group of females only.
M: Erm... uhh... it's just because that's how we speak.
 
I'm a guy, but I'll answer anyway.

In the US, it's fine for casual conversation with friends who talk the same way you do. You're right, in that context, it just means you.

But when talking with strangers, it better to only use it with males. For instance, if you wait tables in a restaurant, don't say to women or a man and woman, "What can I get you guys?"

Some won't mind at all, but some will.

Just saying "What can I get you?" saves time and means the same thing.
 
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Guys is a very interesting word. It used to mean "male humans". Now it works much like "men" used to: it can be neuter or masculine. This was illustrated brilliantly by someone who asked some young women whether "guys" could refer to a group of females. One of them answered "Sure it can. Even guys do it!"
 
Do you notice/feel it when someone uses you guys?

I'm a guy who "feels it" when he uses "you guys" in reference to a group of females, but I've never been able to bring myself to use "you gals" instead.

It is only older-generation people who use "gal(s)," in my experience as a native AmE speaker whose parents are of the Baby Boomer generation.

I also "feel it" when I hear my fellow natives use the possessive construction "your guys's," from which I instinctively recoil.
 
I believe addressing ladies as guys is quite a recent practice which originated in the US. Probably within the last 20 years?
 
I also "feel it" when I hear my fellow natives use the possessive construction "your guys's," from which I instinctively recoil.

I've never heard that one. Is it common?
 
I believe addressing ladies as guys is quite a recent practice which originated in the US. Probably within the last 20 years?
My sister and her friends were doing it fifty years ago.
 
It took off in BrE more recently, though.
 
I've never heard that one. Is it common?

I hear it all the time. On the Corpus of Contemporary American English, "your guys's" slightly more common than "you guys's."

- "I feel so awful reading your guys's stories."
- "I hope your guys's experiences are unforgettable."
- "I'll get out of your guys's way."

It's strange. I never hear or read "you guys'," the possessive without an additional "s." "Your guys's" has always seemed a grammatical abomination to me.
 
I hear it all the time. On the Corpus of Contemporary American English, "your guys's" slightly more common than "you guys's."

For me it's mostly the other way round—I hear you guys's a lot more often than your guys's. I even catch myself using it on occasions when my language use is less planned. It makes me grimace when I do.

It seems to me that there's definitely a kind of 'grammatical void' in English that wants to be filled by a second person plural pronoun. I like the American y'all but I understand that it hasn't properly caught on universally in the US. Is that right? Also, can people who naturally use y'all ever be heard to say the possessive y'all's?
 
I like the American y'all but I understand that it hasn't properly caught on universally in the US. Is that right? Also, can people who naturally use y'all ever be heard to say the possessive y'all's?
"Y'all" is common from Texas to the Carolinas and in Appalachian-influenced areas like where I live in southwest Ohio. I noticed myself saying it just yesterday. I wouldn't be as likely to say it if I were in, say, southern California, for fear of sounding rustic.

"Y'all's" is fine, as is the inclusive "all y'all's" when addressing every member of a group. Other second-person plurals exist. In western Pennsylvania you can hear "y'ins", and in the Northeast, many people say "youse". I just heard that "y'uns" is used in western North Carolina, but I don't recall hearing it there.
 
I have two daughters in their early forties. They both use guys wothout regard to gender, and always have. It's very much the norm here in Canada.
 
Fascinating, guys. Your replies are making me think I need to rethink one very fundamental things about how I understand the language.

Is there just one you with a singular and plural uses, or are there two yous?
If there's just one you, is it intrinsically singular and only can also be used for multiple people, or is it plural and can also be used for single persons?


I'd like to walk you through how I've got to the point I am at in how I feel about you, so you can correct anything that's wrong in my understanding.

It all comes back to how I was taught English in school. Virtually every textbook in Poland uses the traditional first/second/third person singular/plural matrix to introduce personal pronouns and conjugation. I think it might be meant to help learners develop a sense of familiarity between how their first language and their desired second language work, but I'm not sure if it's the right approach, and whether it actually does more good than harm.


Singular:
1st - I - am/do
2nd - you - are/do
3rd - he/she/it - is/does

Plural:
1st - we - are/do
2nd - you - are/do
3rd - they - are/do


What I always disliked about this way of presenting it is that you appears twice—first as a singular you, second as a plural you—which might give learners the impression that there are two distinct yous that only happen to look exactly the same.

The only place where I can truly find a proof that there are two yous is reflexive pronouns; yourself and yourselves clearly show a singular/plural split.

Not only is that redundant—that is if there truly only is one you—it also unnecessarily disrupts an easy to learn pattern. All singular nouns go with is/does, and all plural nouns go with are/do. Since you uses are/do, it must be plural.

Later on, when I graduated from school and started exploring the meanders of this language on my own, I found out that English did use to have a dedicated second person singular, thou that used art/dost, but it got rid of it and started using you to refer to/address both single persons and multiple people.

It started making sense why you uses are/do, and that's when I started thinking of you as an intrinsically plural pronoun that can also be used to refer to/address a single person, similarly to they.


Singular:
he/she/it/guy - is/does

Plural:
we/you/they/guys - are/do


This would leave I as a special case of behaving like neither singular nor plural, rather its own thing, but I'm okay with that because I'm special (;-)), and I already uses am that is nowhere else to be found.

This is, more or less, the mental picture of you that I have.


Jutfrank's made a fantastic point.

It seems to me that there's definitely a kind of 'grammatical void' in English that wants to be filled by a second person plural pronoun.

This seems to directly contradict how I feel about you. The emergence of you all, y'all, all of you, and you guys suggests that you is perceived by native speakers as intrinsically singular, not plural. If it were the other way around, the grammatical void would've been filled with attempts to create something I will in my inaptness exemplify as you one.

I have a lot of questions now, but let me just ask the ones from the beginning for now.

Is there just one you with a singular and plural uses, or are there two yous?
If there's just one you, is it intrinsically singular and only can also be used for multiple people, or is it plural and can also be used for single persons?
 
I don't think I understand your question about one or two yous.

Here's a brief history of the word you guys. Perhaps it'll clear up what you're wondering about: https://time.com/5688255/you-guys/
 
I hear it all the time. On the Corpus of Contemporary American English, "your guys's" slightly more common than "you guys's."

- "I feel so awful reading your guys's stories."
- "I hope your guys's experiences are unforgettable."
- "I'll get out of your guys's way."

It's strange. I never hear or read "you guys'," the possessive without an additional "s." "Your guys's" has always seemed a grammatical abomination to me.
Wait staff use you guys, you guys's and your guys's all the time.

And "Perfect!" And "Did you leave room for dessert?" And the most dreaded "I'll be taking care of you."

The nicest thing about sheltering in place might be not cringing through restaurant interactions.
 
I have two daughters in their early forties. They both use guys wothout regard to gender, and always have. It's very much the norm here in Canada.
It's the norm here, but it does rub some people the wrong way. That's why I said it's better not to use it with strangers — especially customers.
 
. . . It seems to me that there's definitely a kind of 'grammatical void' in English that wants to be filled by a second person plural pronoun. I like the American y'all but I understand that it hasn't properly caught on universally in the US. Is that right? Also, can people who naturally use y'all ever be heard to say the possessive y'all's?
You all, y'all, and all y'all are mainly southern. (In Texas, y'all is singular and all y'all is plural, according to noted man of letters Kinky Friedman).

In parts of the northeast, we have youse and yiz.

Everywhere else, they're on their own.
 
"You guys" is often superfluous, but where it's not, consider alternatives such as "you people", "you folks" or simply "you"!
 
Fascinating, guys. Your replies are making me think I need to rethink one very fundamental thing about how I understand the language.

Is there just one you with a singular and plural uses, or are there two yous?

There is one: you. It's both singular and plural.


If there's just one you, is it intrinsically singular and only can also be used for multiple people, or is it plural and can also be used for single persons?

You can be either singular and plural. There's me, and there's everyone else: you.


I'd like to walk you through how I've got to the point I am at in how I feel about you, so you can correct anything that's wrong in my understanding.

It all comes back to how I was taught English in school. Virtually every textbook in Poland uses the traditional first/second/third person singular/plural matrix to introduce personal pronouns and conjugation. I think it might be meant to help learners develop a sense of familiarity between how their first language and their desired second language work, but I'm not sure if it's the right approach, and whether it actually does more good than harm.

Singular:
1st - I - am/do
2nd - you - are/do
3rd - he/she/it - is/does

Plural:
1st - we - are/do
2nd - you - are/do
3rd - they - are/do

What I always disliked about this way of presenting it is that you appears twice—first as a singular you, second as a plural you—which might give learners the impression that there are two distinct yous that only happen to look exactly the same.

That's a good way to look at it.


The only place where I can truly find a proof that there are two yous is reflexive pronouns; yourself and yourselves clearly show a singular/plural split.

That's only because the plural of self is selves.


Not only is that redundant—that is if there truly only is one you—it also unnecessarily disrupts an easy-to-learn pattern. All singular nouns go with is/does, and all plural nouns go with are/do. Since you uses are/do, it must be plural.

Or you could call it irregular, an exception. That would solve your problem.


Later on, when I graduated from school and started exploring the meanders of this language on my own, I found out that English did use to have a dedicated second person singular, thou that used art/dost, but it got rid of it and started using you to refer to/address both single persons and multiple people.

Yes, I've read that. But that was then and this is now.


It started making sense why you uses are/do, and that's when I started thinking of you as an intrinsically plural pronoun that can also be used to refer to/address a single person, similarly to they.

No, it's intrinsically both plural and singular.


Singular:
he/she/it/guy - is/does

Plural:
we/you/they/guys - are/do

This would leave I as a special case of behaving like neither singular nor plural, rather its own thing, but I'm okay with that because I'm special (;-)), and I already uses am that is nowhere else to be found.

This is, more or less, the mental picture of you that I have.

Jutfrank's made a fantastic point.

This seems to directly contradict how I feel about you. The emergence of you all, y'all, all of you, and you guys suggests that you is perceived by native speakers as intrinsically singular, not plural.

Only in some places. To most Americans, it's both singular and plural. The forms Jutfrank mentions (and the others I mentioned in post #17) are non-standard, like ain't and wanna and gimme.


If it were the other way around, the grammatical void would've been filled with attempts to create something I will in my inaptness exemplify as you one.

Ow!


I have a lot of questions now, but let me just ask the ones from the beginning for now.

Is there just one you with a singular and plural uses, or are there two yous?

There is one word you. It's both singular and plural.


If there's just one you, is it intrinsically singular and only can also be used for multiple people, or is it plural and can also be used for single persons?

It's both singular and plural. (How many times have you asked that?)
That's what I know!
 
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